October 2nd, 1999…hot as blazes. J required several diaper changes. No chance to taste appetizers. TGG about to faint, and Dada’s tie was too long on him. My dress was beautiful; my hair was a mess. There were doubters among the guests, of course, but who doesn’t have those? It was said that day that our wedding was the culmination of a very long, very convoluted love story… No, not really. We think of it as a happy stitch on a very complex, rich tapestry.
I could make a list of the things we’ve been through over the years, but if you’ve read this blog before, you already have an idea. (Teenagers, boxing gloves, hats, Slinky in its many versions, medication, tantrums, dentists, doctors, stitches, flat tires…life in general.) This morning, among many other things, Dada reminded me of how many times I’ve wanted to kill him over the years. And I got that smile. I would explain “that smile” to you, but words would fail me…I’d have to go into how knees turn to jelly, how heart flutters, how I want to jump and say WOW! while holding his face in my hands. You don’t want that sort of mush, trust me, sincere though it is… To my husband’s credit, he totally understood what I meant when I said “there’s no one in this world I’d rather spend the rest of my life wanting to kill.” He gets me, just like I get him… We play this little game where I write down what he’s going to say, even with a time-frame of when he’s going to say it, and I have a 98% rate of success in my predictions. He told me he needs to be less predictable, and -again, to his credit- he totally got it when I said “I’m your Jane Goodall, babe.”
To this day, we continue to be confused, excited, happy, overwhelmed, madly in love, exasperated, dedicated…but above all -and the kids, thank God!, know it- overjoyed. So I leave you with a new favorite that sort of tells a similar story…and I hope you enjoy it as much as we do. (That Rob Thomas and his wife, Marisol, married on the same day -and you can see the same rocket in the background of their pictures- just makes the whole song connection cooler. And a happy thirteenth anniversary to them, too.)