It is the Monday of the last week of school. J isn’t having a good time there. I got a message from his teacher using the expressions OCD and SIB. Nice! The kid who has been behaving nicely at home is being a handful at school. He broke his headphones. He didn’t mean to, but there you have it…they are broken, and this made matters worse.
The last thing one wants to hear when we’re almost to the finish line is “this is not going well.” I am of two minds about this: J’s an a-hole, or J’s just responding to the lassitude that creeps into everyone as the end of the school year approaches. Well, maybe (just maybe) J’s an a-hole that’s responding to the lassitude that creeps into everyone as the end of the school year approaches. He can be persnickety that way. He’s not ready to call it a day, and he wants everyone to rally like he does. This will test the most saintly of creatures, and I’m sure that patience is wearing thin over there with a few kids chomping at the bit to not do much for a few weeks, and one stomping around trying to get everyone on board with being all-hands-on-deck and beat-to-quarters to the very last minute.
Today I am working on that blanket of paper we call the summer PECS board. This year we get to put a road trip on it, and we hope J will be excited about this prospect. On Friday he will get home and, weather permitting, we will walk at a leisurely pace while I explain the map of our lives for the next twelve weeks: a trip to D.C., visits to the doctor and dentist (he might run when he hears these, but it HAS to be done,) ESY, walks to the pool, gardening, making soaps and such… If he’s not totally bored to tears by the time we get to our townhouse, we’ll be fine.
I confess that hearing about J’s difficulties this morning gives me pause. He really isn’t being that way at home. I have searched and searched my mental database, and I cannot find one single instance of SIB in the past few months. Maybe he does it when we’re not looking? There are no signs, though, that J has engaged in any of it. He has been happy and full of energy; when he wants to be alone, he asks us to leave his TV room. When he wants company, he comes looking for us. We do things together, but not so many that it seems we don’t give him space. His appetite has been good, and he loves going to the gym with TGG.
We did notice that he put on a few pounds (nothing to be alarmed…just four pounds that weren’t there before,) and we checked his wallet and the school-sanctioned snacking continues. That, of course, will be off the table on Friday. We take him out and he buys his usual snacks, and he accepts the portions we have agreed to at home. He gets his cookies, chips, popcorn, cheese, and so on in the measure that is healthy. He doesn’t complain, and he actually looks forward to the Thursday evening visit from the ice cream truck. If he’s planning The Great Escape, he’s being more discreet than Steve McQueen et al. Maybe he’s just taking a page from James Thurber’s The Cat-bird Seat, and we will all look like fools in the end.
We are by now, I think, old pros at this transition process, and we will have to apply all our hard-earned wisdom and knowledge when the time comes (next June…oh my!) to end J’s school days. For now, though, we are simply adjusting to another shift in the routine, and we need to figure out if J’s just ready for summer, or if he’s annoyed and anxious about something else entirely.
When I go back to the summer I was 20 (many, many years ago) I remember that trip to Europe and the frustration of not getting my Three Coins In the Fountain summer. My mother and godmother took us to The Vatican more times than required, and we didn’t get to see the Sistine Chapel because “it will hurt our necks! I didn’t come to Rome to end up with a pain in my neck!!!” In Florence I had to fight for the right to look at Michelangelo’s David without censorship, and the Moulin Rouge in Paris was verboten (“it’s not all fun and games like Toulouse-Lautrec made it seem!”,) but we did get our bit of unwanted nudity at the Lido. I discovered I had early-onset rheumatism in London, and wasn’t allowed to stay out late in Spain in spite of the fact that the sun had yet to set when we left whatever restaurant we’d gone to for the umpteenth time. J probably views his life in the same terms; even if we’ve covered his walls with Kate Upton, pin-up girls, and his bedtime is only restricted on school nights (and that because he drags ass with the best of them in the morning,) he probably thinks there’s this huge conspiracy to make him miserable. Just as I felt that I was on the most anticipated trip ruined by my mother, J probably will think that all the fun and games will be parentally kiboshed while we’re in D.C. Either that or, in true J fashion, he will be so enamored of the hotel experience (because he LOVES hotels) that we won’t be able to drag him out of the room for the whole four days. J, it is said around these parts, has a bit of the Hugh-Hefner-in-his-silk-pajamas about him…he likes to lounge and enjoy the AC and the luxury of a room where he won’t be asked to make the bed.
Between now and then, of course, I have to square away the transition to vacation-mode. I’m sure that the current state of dissatisfaction comes from the limbo between “nose to the grindstone” and “what the heck…it’s the last week!!!!” We’ll try to remove the SIB. I’m on it. I really am… Especially with the med about to go away and leave us…forever…